How To Stop Negative Self Talk with a Compassionate Voice

I have become healthy, both physically and mentally, emotionally balanced, stress-free and content. The journey to get there began with silencing my inner critic and believing in myself.

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Negative self talk and an eating disorder go together creating a loop of disordered thinking. That’s when the negative voice in my head was the loudest and self compassion was barely a whisper.

How did I silence the negative voice and allow self compassion to become a roar?

That transformation is different for everyone. For me it was yoga and I don’t know if I will ever truly understand why and how yoga held such a transformative energy for me.

When I practice yoga my inner critic is silenced.

When I realized that negative voice was silent when I was on my mat, I knew the same could be done off the mat in my day to day life. I knew I could live your yoga. Breaking that habit of negative self talk has been one of my toughest challenges. Ever. I started incorporating a compassionate voice into my life on a daily basis. There were times when if felt awkward and fake and as if the negative stream of thoughts would never stop. Regardless, I allowed a constant stream of supportive talk to flow in my head. Eventually, it became almost second nature and effortless. And even more importantly, eventually I believed I was worthy of the supportive talk running though my head.

I still have the occasional negative self dialogue, but now that negative voice is barely a whisper.

Negative self-talk often speaks so much louder than a compassionate voice. When someone puts you down, you’re stressed, tired or you’re doing something that is particularly challenging, the louder negative voice can drown out the quiet voice of wisdom that says, I am enough or I can do this.

Speaking to yourself with a compassionate voice does not mean seeing yourself as perfect or denying any faults. Instead, it’s seeing the imperfections and accepting yourself in spite of them. It’s focusing on all the positive things you are instead of all the things you believe you’re not. It’s striving to make the negative internal dialogue silent or at least a little less loud.

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When we don’t give ourselves compassion and approval we seek it from others. We spend a lot of energy and time trying to win that approval of others and, in the end, the recognition of others alone can leave us still feeling empty. It’s not until we cultivate a compassionate voice for ourselves that we begin meeting our own needs and, then, the approval or acceptance of others begins to feel less important, if at all.

Cultivating a Compassionate Voice

Listen to Your Inner Dialogue: Pay attention to what you say to yourself. Listen for negative internal statements, compliments you routinely reject and negative statements you say about yourself to others. Write it all down. Make notes not only of what you are thinking and saying to yourself and others, but when you had the thoughts. When you start putting the negative dialogue in writing, it can be a wake-up call for how critical you’re being to yourself, and that realization alone can begin to change the negative self talk.

Reframe Negative Statements: When you find yourself engaging in negative self-talk, respond to the negative statements. Replace the irrational thinking with rational thoughts and don’t accept your negative assumptions as truth. When you say or think, “I look like crap today.” Respond by saying or thinking, “No, you don’t. You’re just a little tired.”  When someone compliments you, “You look pretty today.” The negative assumption, “He only said that to be nice.” Question your negative assumption by asking yourself, what evidence do you have that your negative assumption is true? Are there other possibilities?

Write down the positives: Make a list of the positive things about yourself you know to be true. Focus on what you’re good at, strengths and accomplishments. When you actually write them down, you can look back at the list and see the positives during times when they’re most difficult to see.

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We all have a choice. Every one of us can wake up in the morning and say that today, right now, this second, I am in control and I love who I am. I can silence my inner critic and allow self compassion to become a roar.

Find comfort in a compassionate voice and learn to embrace it without question or hesitation. It’s that voice that is going to the hardest times and the biggest challenges in life easier.

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19 Comments

  1. I used to criticize myself daily. I live in a very toxic environment. Though through daily affirmations, positive talk and thinking. Teaching myself that what others say have nothing to do with me. I’m enough. I read a lot of self help and self healing. Amongst many other topics that has transformed my life. I reward mysef daily with the peaceful outdoors, the Mother Earth is healing to my soul. Living life with peace, love , joy & happiness. ???I know now how block others negativity, I used to take on theirs. No wonder I was so sick. Now I’m living on top of the world.

  2. I believe everything you have said in this post is true. It’s a matter of getting yourself in a peaceful setting in order to listen to your inner voice and know that positive thoughts are what will drive us forward to achieve good things. You did this through Yoga, for me it is spending time in the great outdoors, experiencing the wonder of nature. When we are at peace, it becomes an easier process to disconnect with the negativity in our lives and be happy.

  3. I used to criticise myself over everything till a wonderful lady told me that if I don’t appreciate myself, no one will. Writing down the positives in form of gratitude list works like magic.

  4. I am terrible for negative talk. It is definitely a habit I need to break. I’ve seen first hand how people’s lives can be changed through becoming more positive.

  5. Good suggestions. Negative self-talk can be so detrimental. I find myself being negative about my life in general. But I also know most of the time it’s stress.

  6. Such a great post. I find myself enjoying yoga for the calm it brings.
    I try to do yoga every morning and then spend time in devotions and prayer. It truly helps silence all negativity.

  7. I love this! Especially the tip about writing down the positives. I find this super helpful when it comes to reminding myself I’m doing GOOD!!

  8. Love, love, LOVE this! I’ve actually been practicing this since starting to read the book, “The Universe Has Your Back.” Taking negative self talk as an opportunity to change your mindset makes such a difference. Thanks for sharing!

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