When you experience peace of mind and contentment, it is the most wonderful feeling in the world. There is a certain detachment, a sitting back and letting go. Buddhist philosophy suggests that to be happy we simply choose to let go of that which makes us unhappy. It sounds so simple doesn’t it. Simple? No. Is it true? Absolutely.
I’m a different person than I was 2 years ago. The beginning of a downward spiral leading to a destructive relationship with food that became a journey of wellness and finding purpose.
In the past few weeks I’ve been thinking a lot about how I got from being who I was 2 years ago to who I am today. I came to the conclusion that a big part of that journey was letting go. It wasn’t a single grand moment of an epiphany with a glowing bright light and clouds parting away to reveal sunshine. It’s been a long challenging journey of questioning and self-study. It’s been a journey of good days, bad days, highs and lows.
Let go of what is holding you back.
Let go of limiting beliefs.
We put limitations on ourselves everyday, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. There’s freedom and empowerment in changing your thinking from cannot do and impossible to yes I can and possible!
Let go of perfection.
Perfection is an illusion. Letting go of perfection doesn’t mean letting go of yourself and wanting to learn, improve and grow. Letting go of perfection means letting go of an unattainable goal and thoughts that detract from life.
Let go of negative self-talk.
Think about it. How does negative self-talk serve you? It doesn’t. When was the last time negative self-talk made a situation better or made us feel better? Never. Negative thoughts make it impossible to boost your feelings of self-worth.
Let go of your need for control.
Give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you. Sometimes allow everything and everyone to just be as they are. Accomplishing this feels like a breath of fresh air and warm sunshine on your face.
Let go of your fear of failure.
How many times have you made decisions, avoided something or not tried because you were afraid to fail? Imagine the possibilities of what we can accomplish without that fear. Ask yourself, what’s the worst that can happen if you do fail? How does that compare to the amazing things that can happen if you succeed.
Let go of comparing yourself to others.
This never leads to anywhere positive or productive, so why do we do it? They say comparison is the thief of joy. It is. Guaranteed. Focus on yourself and the wonderful things you have to offer in the world in your own unique way.
Let go of beating yourself up for making a mistake.
Don’t wait 2 years! I lived with an eating disorder for almost 2 years before finally giving myself forgiveness for allowing it to happen. Honestly, I was beginning to believe that recovery wasn’t even possible. I was beginning to accept that I would always have a negative relationship with food. It wasn’t until I forgave myself that I thought recovery was possible.
Let go of giving your personal power to others.
How often do we allow someone else’s opinion of us or the way they treat us to affect our day, our self-esteem or what we think of ourselves? Giving someone my personal power was what I now see as the beginning of my journey down a very destructive path. Take your power back and don’t let what others say or their opinions about you define who you are.
Let go of allowing your physical appearance to define you.
Have you ever wondered where your standard of physical beauty comes from? Are those standards even realistic? Your value rests in who you are and what you bring to this world. Appearance is far less important than we’re lead to think.
I am not perfect and sometimes life feels overwhelming and long gone habits attempt to become habits again. But each time this happens it becomes easier to stop negative thoughts and reframe irrational thinking. Each time it becomes easier to let go.
Everyday I wake up in the morning and say that today, right now, right this second, I am in control of my happiness and I love the way I am.
I use a combination of being active, meditation, mindfulness, and healthy eating. It’s a daily practice of positivity, self-love and surrender that nurtures the mind, body and soul.
I would love to chat.
What are you holding onto that you need to let go?
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