Learning to listen to yourself and give your body, mind and soul some much needed love and care is an important part of living your best life.
I was thinking a few days ago how incredibly different my life is and in ways I never expected. In some ways better. In other ways it’s just different. Funny how life happens that way.
It wasn’t until I changed my go-go-go and do-do-do mindset and slowed down that I realized some of my habits were counter productive and counter intuitive and not conducive to happiness.
I was seriously asking myself, “how did I get even get to this point?”
After deciding I needed to make a change a journey was set in motion. A journey traveled with amazing, kind and loving people, with twists and turns, struggles and joy. Talk about ah-ha moments along the way. I realized I was the only person noticing imperfections, a state of constant hurriedness can begin to feel normal, but it’s not, I need more than 5 hours sleep, and if I eat intuitively nutrition falls into place.
I realized I was projecting [operative word being WAS] my expectation of unattainable perfection of myself onto others. Surely they expected me to be perfect. Right?
NEWS FLASH! I was the only one that expected me to be perfect.
I have learned that with time and consistency self-care stops feeling like a plan or a checklist and becomes intuitive. It becomes a habit to check in with yourself and give your body and mind what it needs when it needs it.
We all get caught up in life at times, and self-care is given very little thought. In the busyness of life we don’t give ourselves a break, loving care or much needed space.
I looked back at how I began creating a self-care plan and one of the first things I did was to decide what self-care needed to look like for me. What areas of my life could use a little attention?
Bring an awareness to your body and mind’s need for a little TLC. Download the guide below and use the questions as a starting point to get yourself thinking about your self-care and what your needs are. Add questions to the list that are applicable to you personally.
Once you start thinking about it, your self-care needs will become clear.
How do you know if you need a self-care plan?
Answer these questions as a guide to finding your answer.
- Do you feel guilty about the things you don’t do?
- Are you often irritable?
- Have you noticed changes in your appetite and/or an increase in cravings?
- Do you rarely, if ever, make time to do what feels good?
- Do you laugh and smile regularly?
- Are you uncomfortable with being alone?
- Do you take the time to tune into your body and mind’s needs and make those needs a priority?
- Do you have hobbies?
- Do you surround yourself with people that make you happy?
- Is the little voice in your head criticizing?
- Do you wake up ready to start the day with energy or dread?
- Do you go to bed exhausted, but have a hard time falling and staying asleep?
- Do you spend all of your time caring for other people and giving little thought to caring for yourself?
- Do you go outdoors just for the joy of being outdoors?
- Do you feel like joy is elusive?
- Do you beat yourself up for mistakes?
- Does everything feel like a chore?
- Do small things feel like big things?
- Are you in a constant or frequent state of overwhelmed?
- Are you stressed more days of the week than not?
- Do you frequently focus on wanting more, bigger or better?
It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness and well being a priority. When you take care of you, you will be better able to take care of other people in your life.
Maybe it’s time to check in with yourself and include a little more self-care in your life. Download the self-care guide below and get started. The quote? Hang it where you can see if often. It’s a great reminder of how important self-care is for yourself and the people in your life.
We’ve been working together to create self-care plans for a few weeks. In case you missed the first self-care post and download: Ideas, Activities and Comforts To Include In a Self-Care Plan
I would love to chat.
Do you know when you need more self-care? What does self-care look like for you?
This article and all included information is not intended as medical advice and does not treat or diagnose. Please consult your doctor for any health-related questions or concerns.
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